A little while back I was having a conversation with a male friend of mine.  We are both, to the best of my knowledge, single.  I was explaining how, at some point last year, I got so frustrated by my dating experiences that I decided to go on a self-imposed dating hiatus and just focus on other things — triathlon training, spending time with friends and family, work, etc.  I mentioned how I felt that I would really just like to be pursued for a change instead of just putting myself out there repeatedly.  Now, the feminist in me always cringes when I think this — I always believed that women should be able to make the first move, ask guys out, etc., but back in college, and for a while thereafter, I always had a boyfriend.  I never had to put this into practice.  In reality, or at least in present day NYC dating, this tactic is not a good one.  Guys here seem to like the chase.  Don’t get me wrong — they may go out with you if you ask, but I have found that in 99.9% of the successful relationships I know of here, the woman always sort of hung back and let the guy take charge, at least during the initial phases.  Anyhoo, when I explained how I wanted be pursued, my friend’s response took me aback a bit.  He said, "so do I."  "Well then," I asked, smiling, "is it possible that we’re all just sitting around, waiting to be pursued?"  "Sure."  So there you go — perhaps we’re at an impasse.  If so, who should take the first step?