I stumbled across a blog the other day called smitten, written by a woman who appears to be about my age, living in NY. One of her earliest posts rang so true with me that I had to share part of it with you.

You know what I am tired of hearing?
How is it that a girl like you is single.
Do you want to know the ugly details or do you want me to tell you that I am not a psychopath?
She goes on to describe some details about her last relationship, and some details about herself, and then:
So, maybe, the next time someone asks me why I am still single, they will instead say, I’m glad I got to meet you while you still were.

I feel the same way. Now, I’m not going to go into any details about past relationships and all the different ways they have had an impact on me, etc. (okay, you can read a tiny bit here, but that’s it), but I’m still fairly mystified by the whole “why are you still single” thing. Why do people ask this? And considering the umpteen years that I wasn’t single, I definitely needed to be single in order to really get to know myself as a person — I don’t think it’s possible to be in a truly healthy relationship without some quality time alone.

But now? The next time someone asks, “How is it that a girl like you is single?” My response will be, “Someone should take advantage of this good timing. I promise I won’t be single forever.”