Apparently, for all of you out there who have been gunning for me to move to Brooklyn, there may be yet another reason for me to move out there. According to “The Sexual Organization of the City,” (which is based on Chicago, but has been analyzed by the New York Post for NYC), some neighborhoods are “transactional” and others are “relational marketplaces.” My ‘hood? Transactional — good for short-term non-committed relationships. Tell me about it. Basically, the world below 14th street, which is where I spend the majority of my social time, “attracts young, single people who spend the bulk of their time in local hangouts – bars, gyms, coffee shops, clubs.” Park Slope and Carroll Gardens (neighborhoods in which I’ve thought about living in Brooklyn)? Relational. “These neighborhoods tend to be peopled with married or cohabiting couples, and their single friends tend to meet potential partners through already-committed mutual friends.” The article and the book go on to say that there’s no guarantee that a move to a relational neighborhood will guarantee a long-term relationship, so it’s somewhat of a Catch-22 situation.
Hmm. Decisions, decisions. My current lease isn’t up until September, and the thought of moving yet again makes me nauseous. It’s not outside of the realm of possibility, however. What do you recommend? Should I move to Carroll Gardens in hope of finding love? Trade in the ability to walk to work for a long schlep on the F train and a boyfriend? Or stay in my centrally-located, Greenwich Village apartment, and live a life of singledom, surrounded by my extended social network of fellow “transactional” neighborhood folks? Any and all thoughts are welcome. Does your neighborhood help or hurt your chances of finding love?
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STAY WHERE YOU ARE!!! These “transactionals” will find you without your having to make such a life changing move. There are lots of nice things about Brooklyn, – but every one is totally wiped out by the rush hour subway ride!
STAY WHERE YOU ARE!!! These “transactionals” will find you without your having to make such a life changing move. There are lots of nice things about Brooklyn, – but every one is totally wiped out by the rush hour subway ride!
I was born there-how bad can it be ? Dad
I was born there-how bad can it be ? Dad
It strikes me that the writers of said book are tinkering around the edges of a “post hoc ergo propter hoc” fallacy.
But what do I know?
It strikes me that the writers of said book are tinkering around the edges of a “post hoc ergo propter hoc” fallacy.
But what do I know?
Mom — I hope you mean the “relational marketplace” guys will find me. Too many “transactionals” have found me already!
Brad — I know I’m a lawyer and should understand Latin, but I need a translation. What the hell do you mean?
Mom — I hope you mean the “relational marketplace” guys will find me. Too many “transactionals” have found me already!
Brad — I know I’m a lawyer and should understand Latin, but I need a translation. What the hell do you mean?
Literally it means “after this therefore because of this.” Basically saying that if one thing follows another, the first thing caused it.
“The rooster crowed and the sun came up. Better not lose that rooster.”
Literally it means “after this therefore because of this.” Basically saying that if one thing follows another, the first thing caused it.
“The rooster crowed and the sun came up. Better not lose that rooster.”
Eh. Brooklyn. You know in your heart of hearts it’s overrated. And Manhattan isn’t.
Point taken on “transitionals”, though. Being content with what you have in the-here-and-now is not a trait Manhattanites are famous for.
Eh. Brooklyn. You know in your heart of hearts it’s overrated. And Manhattan isn’t.
Point taken on “transitionals”, though. Being content with what you have in the-here-and-now is not a trait Manhattanites are famous for.
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I think any intelligeng single male will realize how lucky they are to be in your company, let along being in a relationship with you. You are one of the coolest people I’ve met in the past five years, and I definitely am glad to have met you. Everything happens for a reason. Do what your heart tells you to do. If moving to Brooklyn saves you money and gives you more living space and that’s what you want, then that’s what you should do. However, if living in your Greenwich Village apartment makes you happy, so be it. The right man will come along when the time is right.
I think any intelligeng single male will realize how lucky they are to be in your company, let along being in a relationship with you. You are one of the coolest people I’ve met in the past five years, and I definitely am glad to have met you. Everything happens for a reason. Do what your heart tells you to do. If moving to Brooklyn saves you money and gives you more living space and that’s what you want, then that’s what you should do. However, if living in your Greenwich Village apartment makes you happy, so be it. The right man will come along when the time is right.