Author: Laren

  • Outed!

    After Thanksgiving at my Mom’s, I traveled to Virginia to meet my Dad, stepmom, brother and sister at a farmhouse in the Shenandoah Valley. The farmhouse belongs to friends of the family from back in the day when we lived in Washington D.C. — they have a set of twins a month younger than my brother and sister, and a daughter a year older than the twins. We have kept in touch over the years, and decided to join them for a second Thanksgiving. We arrived late Friday night, after some flight delays and hideous weather, and proceeded to cook the first of the weekend feasts — the Maine contingent had brought lobsters (I brought NYC bagels for the next morning). When we finally got settled, we all sat down to our lobster dinner, with plenty of wine to go around. Somehow, during the course of the conversation, we started talking about the internet, discussing things like Friendster, and how it served as a way for people in our generation to meet new people (I am in the process of adding Stephanie, Josh, and Jon to my “friends” list). I mentioned, without really thinking, that I had just met someone through my weblog. “Your what?” Oops. So now they know — it’s really no big deal. There’s nothing here that’s particularly scandalous or embarrasing (at least I don’t think so). Yet.

    So — to the family and friends of the family who are now reading my blog for the first time — Welcome! (Gulp.)

    The weekend was centered around family (10 people in the two families), friends (who joined us for the feasts — I think there were 25-30 people for the second Thanksgiving), and, of course, food. One of the culinary highlights for the weekend, in my opinion, was Kim’s pumpkin cheesecake with bourbon whipped cream (from Cooks’ Illustrated). Kim subsituted crushed peanut butter cookies for the graham crackers in the crust. Yum. The other culinary highlight, or more accurately, fascination, for me was learning about something called “hotdish.” For those of you, like me, who were unfamiliar with the term “hotdish,” it seems to be a Midwestern (Minnesotan?) term for anything that you throw into a casserole and bake. A quick google search for hotdish led me to my favorite definition: Hotdish: 1) midwestern colloquialism for a hot entree that is similar to a French casserole except that it is often inedible; 2) the bastard offspring of canned Cream of Mushroom soup.

    As those of you at the farm this weekend recall, I spent a great deal of time snapping photos. Here’s a quick preview, but you can find the rest of them here.

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  • Outed!

    After Thanksgiving at my Mom’s, I traveled to Virginia to meet my Dad, stepmom, brother and sister at a farmhouse in the Shenandoah Valley. The farmhouse belongs to friends of the family from back in the day when we lived in Washington D.C. — they have a set of twins a month younger than my brother and sister, and a daughter a year older than the twins. We have kept in touch over the years, and decided to join them for a second Thanksgiving. We arrived late Friday night, after some flight delays and hideous weather, and proceeded to cook the first of the weekend feasts — the Maine contingent had brought lobsters (I brought NYC bagels for the next morning). When we finally got settled, we all sat down to our lobster dinner, with plenty of wine to go around. Somehow, during the course of the conversation, we started talking about the internet, discussing things like Friendster, and how it served as a way for people in our generation to meet new people (I am in the process of adding Stephanie, Josh, and Jon to my “friends” list). I mentioned, without really thinking, that I had just met someone through my weblog. “Your what?” Oops. So now they know — it’s really no big deal. There’s nothing here that’s particularly scandalous or embarrasing (at least I don’t think so). Yet.

    So — to the family and friends of the family who are now reading my blog for the first time — Welcome! (Gulp.)

    The weekend was centered around family (10 people in the two families), friends (who joined us for the feasts — I think there were 25-30 people for the second Thanksgiving), and, of course, food. One of the culinary highlights for the weekend, in my opinion, was Kim’s pumpkin cheesecake with bourbon whipped cream (from Cooks’ Illustrated). Kim subsituted crushed peanut butter cookies for the graham crackers in the crust. Yum. The other culinary highlight, or more accurately, fascination, for me was learning about something called “hotdish.” For those of you, like me, who were unfamiliar with the term “hotdish,” it seems to be a Midwestern (Minnesotan?) term for anything that you throw into a casserole and bake. A quick google search for hotdish led me to my favorite definition: Hotdish: 1) midwestern colloquialism for a hot entree that is similar to a French casserole except that it is often inedible; 2) the bastard offspring of canned Cream of Mushroom soup.

    As those of you at the farm this weekend recall, I spent a great deal of time snapping photos. Here’s a quick preview, but you can find the rest of them here.

    farmhouse.jpg

  • Just Say No

    I went to the gym today with a friend of mine for a post-Thanksgiving spin class (thank God!). She asked if I had updated my blog. “Not since before Thanksgiving,” I replied. “Did you see the article in the Style section this weekend?” she asked. “No.” “It’s about taking a break from the whole dating scene.” Oh yeah. I knew I had to rush home and read it.

    I felt like I was a step ahead of the trend described in the article. On of the subjects realized that with the time she spent on internet dating, she could start her own small business. So she did. I recently made a similar declaration — I’m just going to do the best I can and live my life. No more internet dating, no more speed dating, no more obsessing about being set up by my friends (who never produced anyway — except for my sister). No small business, either, but at least I have made a conscious decision to embrace my singledom. I am not giving up on finding someone with whom to spend my life, but I’m not making it the focus of my life. Besides, if I’m not happy on my own, there’s no way in hell that I’m going to be happy with someone else.

    So far, I’ve been very happy with my decision. It’s amazing what can sprout up organically. Now — time to check out the website mentioned in the article: Itsokaytobesingle.com. I’ll let you know how it turns out.

  • Just Say No

    I went to the gym today with a friend of mine for a post-Thanksgiving spin class (thank God!). She asked if I had updated my blog. “Not since before Thanksgiving,” I replied. “Did you see the article in the Style section this weekend?” she asked. “No.” “It’s about taking a break from the whole dating scene.” Oh yeah. I knew I had to rush home and read it.

    I felt like I was a step ahead of the trend described in the article. On of the subjects realized that with the time she spent on internet dating, she could start her own small business. So she did. I recently made a similar declaration — I’m just going to do the best I can and live my life. No more internet dating, no more speed dating, no more obsessing about being set up by my friends (who never produced anyway — except for my sister). No small business, either, but at least I have made a conscious decision to embrace my singledom. I am not giving up on finding someone with whom to spend my life, but I’m not making it the focus of my life. Besides, if I’m not happy on my own, there’s no way in hell that I’m going to be happy with someone else.

    So far, I’ve been very happy with my decision. It’s amazing what can sprout up organically. Now — time to check out the website mentioned in the article: Itsokaytobesingle.com. I’ll let you know how it turns out.

  • Next Year’s Menu

    My Thanksgiving this year is going to be slightly odd. Not bad, just odd. I am going up to my Mom’s for the day, and my Mom, who usually really enjoys cooking for the holidays, announced that “Thanksgiving elves” will be doing the cooking this year. In other words, she’s ordering Thanksgiving dinner. Now, I generally don’t have strong opinions about ordering versus cooking food, but it does seem rather strange to me to be ordering Thanksgiving dinner. For now, I will reserve judgment until after the meal.

    On Friday, I will be meeting the other half of the family in Virginia, where we are going to visit friends of the family at their farm. It will be a full house — complete with two sets of twins, two siblings of twins (including me) and two sets of parents. I think my Dad is planning on hauling ten lobsters on the plane down from Portland, Maine so that we can have a lobster dinner on Friday night, then we’re having Thanksgiving dinner, take two, on Saturday night.

    Since I am trying my best to get back on the exercise wagon, I’ll be bringing running clothes. Perhaps I’ll even use them.

    Finally, in keeping with the odd Thanksgiving tradition, I have decided that next year’s Thanksgiving menu will feature Turducken. For those not in the know, this is a chicken in a duck in a turkey, with layers of stuffing in between. I think it originated in New Orleans, from Chef Paul Prudhomme, whose site features step-by-step instructions on how to make a Turducken. Between his recipe and a few others I’ve seen, it looks like a major process. I may have to start cooking next week.

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    Happy Thanksgiving to the seven of you reading (I think my readership is slowly starting to grow!)

  • Even More Thoughts on Online Dating

    Well, at least the latest New York Times piece on online dating, Romance 2.0, is a bit more on the mark than the last one I read. In fact, in the magazine format, there is a quote highlighted that pretty much sums up my opinion on the matter. “But if flirting in the real world consists of no-strings banter between two people who feel a mutual attraction, online flirtation is its inverse — it happens in the presence of everything but physical attraction. Two people who have read each other’s profiles may know each other’s hobbies, income, turn-ons, religious affiliations, political views and whether or not they want children, but they have no idea whether the frisson these avatars of themselves manage to whip up in the void will translate into life.” As I’ve said, no sparks = no sparks, no matter where you meet the person, and at least offline, there is usually some sort of spark that gets a chance meeting to move to the next step.

    For now, despite the techno-dork that I’ve become, I’m sticking to the offline, old-fashioned, spark-filled dating. Seems to be working for me at the moment.


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  • What’s in a Name?

    I would love to get some reader feedback on this one. As a single woman dating in New York, I have noticed a trend among my peers. Until someone actually moves up to the status of “boyfriend,” (and sometimes even after that) he tends to get dubbed with a nickname. This way, your friends don’t have to be bothered learning someone’s name until they’re sure he’ll be around for a significant period of time, and you can still keep them filled in on the details of your social life. Sometimes these nicknames focus on someone’s job (“the architect,” “the doctor”), or how you met them (“internet boy,” “dinner party guy”), or where they live (“DC guy,” “East Village guy”).

    So my question, dear readers, is — what are some of your/your friends’ top nicknames for guys you’ve dated or been interested in? Here are some of my favorites (they are not all guys I’ve dated personally — some are from friends):

  • the clown
  • soup guy
  • no-sparks-Mike
  • the Republican
  • pro-life/NASCAR guy
  • the jackass
  • the intern

    Please chime in — I’m looking forward to hearing your responses! (And please note — this is open to men and nicknames that they may have for women they’ve dated, too. I don’t think the phenomenon is gender-specific.)

    UPDATE: people are starting to chime in — here are some reader submissions, and I will continue to add to this list. Thank you for your contributions and feedback!

  • wine guy
  • boring paul
  • subway guy
  • NBA guy
  • The Great Dane
  • Wharton Guy
  • The NRA guy
  • Tall Eric
  • Not-my-brother Jeremy, Jeremy
  • The Venti Mocha
  • The Clump
  • The Nugget
  • Cupcake Boy
  • Shack
  • non-date guy
  • Stove-top stuffing

  • What’s in a Name?

    I would love to get some reader feedback on this one. As a single woman dating in New York, I have noticed a trend among my peers. Until someone actually moves up to the status of “boyfriend,” (and sometimes even after that) he tends to get dubbed with a nickname. This way, your friends don’t have to be bothered learning someone’s name until they’re sure he’ll be around for a significant period of time, and you can still keep them filled in on the details of your social life. Sometimes these nicknames focus on someone’s job (“the architect,” “the doctor”), or how you met them (“internet boy,” “dinner party guy”), or where they live (“DC guy,” “East Village guy”).

    So my question, dear readers, is — what are some of your/your friends’ top nicknames for guys you’ve dated or been interested in? Here are some of my favorites (they are not all guys I’ve dated personally — some are from friends):

  • the clown
  • soup guy
  • no-sparks-Mike
  • the Republican
  • pro-life/NASCAR guy
  • the jackass
  • the intern

    Please chime in — I’m looking forward to hearing your responses! (And please note — this is open to men and nicknames that they may have for women they’ve dated, too. I don’t think the phenomenon is gender-specific.)

    UPDATE: people are starting to chime in — here are some reader submissions, and I will continue to add to this list. Thank you for your contributions and feedback!

  • wine guy
  • boring paul
  • subway guy
  • NBA guy
  • The Great Dane
  • Wharton Guy
  • The NRA guy
  • Tall Eric
  • Not-my-brother Jeremy, Jeremy
  • The Venti Mocha
  • The Clump
  • The Nugget
  • Cupcake Boy
  • Shack
  • non-date guy
  • Stove-top stuffing

  • Mango Quickly in Boston

    Attention all Boston area readers (are there any Boston area readers out there?) — my brother’s band, Mango Quickly, is playing at Harper’s Ferry with Boston’s The Nine on Wednesday, November 26th. The show starts at 9:30, $5 cover, 21+. Harper’s Ferry is at 156 Brighton Ave, Allston, MA, 617.254.9743. For more info email [email protected].


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    Mango Quickly is fun and funky — I promise you won’t be able to sit still, and I’m not saying that just because my brother is the drummer!

  • Mango Quickly in Boston

    Attention all Boston area readers (are there any Boston area readers out there?) — my brother’s band, Mango Quickly, is playing at Harper’s Ferry with Boston’s The Nine on Wednesday, November 26th. The show starts at 9:30, $5 cover, 21+. Harper’s Ferry is at 156 Brighton Ave, Allston, MA, 617.254.9743. For more info email [email protected].


    NineMQ8x10.jpg

    Mango Quickly is fun and funky — I promise you won’t be able to sit still, and I’m not saying that just because my brother is the drummer!