Many times I have wondered about how I might possibly juggle work and family life. Not that this is an immediate concern, mind you, given the fact that I haven’t even gone on a date in a while, but I was thinking about it recently because of an article in Sunday’s NYT magazine. Lisa Belkin, who often writes about employment issues, described what she termed the “opt-out revolution,” a wave of well-educated women who aren’t climbing the career ladder because they choose not to.

That’s all fine and dandy for these women, since they are all part of two-parent families where the husband is making a big fat salary. In my future, however, I see things turning out somewhat differently. First, no matter what line of business my perspective spouse is in, my own salary is likely to max out pretty quickly — the non-profit world is not a moneymaker. Second, there may not be a spouse at all, let alone a high-salaried one. Although I don’t like to think about it, there is a chance that I may end up making the decision to raise a child by myself. Finally, my dream spouse is much more likely to be an artist, a schoolteacher, or a legal aid lawyer than a corporate lawyer or a banker — this is a good thing.

Sometimes I wonder — I have the capacity to earn a much bigger salary as a corporate lawyer — could I ever go back? Not likely, certainly not for anything other than a short-term stint. Maybe I should reconsider dating those corporate lawyers and investment bankers . . . hmm.

Note — as pointed out my one of my cohorts, there was a Salon article that’s more in line with my thinking on this issue.

Many times I have wondered about how I might possibly juggle work and family life. Not that this is an immediate concern, mind you, given the fact that I haven’t even gone on a date in a while, but I was thinking about it recently because of an article in Sunday’s NYT magazine. Lisa Belkin, who often writes about employment issues, described what she termed the “opt-out revolution,” a wave of well-educated women who aren’t climbing the career ladder because they choose not to.

That’s all fine and dandy for these women, since they are all part of two-parent families where the husband is making a big fat salary. In my future, however, I see things turning out somewhat differently. First, no matter what line of business my perspective spouse is in, my own salary is likely to max out pretty quickly — the non-profit world is not a moneymaker. Second, there may not be a spouse at all, let alone a high-salaried one. Although I don’t like to think about it, there is a chance that I may end up making the decision to raise a child by myself. Finally, my dream spouse is much more likely to be an artist, a schoolteacher, or a legal aid lawyer than a corporate lawyer or a banker — this is a good thing.

Sometimes I wonder — I have the capacity to earn a much bigger salary as a corporate lawyer — could I ever go back? Not likely, certainly not for anything other than a short-term stint. Maybe I should reconsider dating those corporate lawyers and investment bankers . . . hmm.

Note — as pointed out my one of my cohorts, there was a Salon article that’s more in line with my thinking on this issue.

New York Daily News – News & Views – A single state of mind

The Daily News reports that “[i]t’s official: New York has the hottest singles scene in America. The U.S. Census Bureau released a report yesterday showing New York has a greater percentage of bachelors and bachelorettes than any other state – and most of the singles are in the city.” Also of note is the fact that there are “86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women.”

So according to my (extremely non-scientific) calculations, at least 10% of the single male population is gay, and at least 85% of the straight men are jackasses. That leaves approximately 12 straight, non-jackass men for every 90 women (I’m calculating 10% gay on that side of the equation as well).

Fantastic.

New York Daily News – News & Views – A single state of mind

The Daily News reports that “[i]t’s official: New York has the hottest singles scene in America. The U.S. Census Bureau released a report yesterday showing New York has a greater percentage of bachelors and bachelorettes than any other state – and most of the singles are in the city.” Also of note is the fact that there are “86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women.”

So according to my (extremely non-scientific) calculations, at least 10% of the single male population is gay, and at least 85% of the straight men are jackasses. That leaves approximately 12 straight, non-jackass men for every 90 women (I’m calculating 10% gay on that side of the equation as well).

Fantastic.