I am convinced that dating in New York is different from dating in other parts of the world. Let’s do a case study, shall we?
Girl meets boy at her local neighborhood joint, chatting amiably over dinner at the bar, each having brought, but then ignored, their respective reading materials (she, the New Yorker; he, the Economist or some such). Girl’s friends show up, strategically tricking boy to stay for about twenty minutes longer than he initially intended, and to drink more wine (girl’s friends are fantastic wingpeople). Boy invites girl to go see a band on the LES (she has convinced him to go see this particular band rather than the one he initially chose because they rock, and her neighbor’s in it). Girl expresses interest, but politely declines, since it is already 11:45 on a school night. “Some other time, perhaps?” says girl, coyly. Boy and girl exchange business cards and go their separate ways, each going away for the weekend.
Boy emails girl the following week, scoring major points with girl. After polite back and forth email banter about how good the band was, boy and girl agree to go out for a drink, dinner, or possibly even to see another band. Then, the scheduling negotiations begin. The negotiations are frustrated by a) girl’s busy social life; b) boy’s demanding work schedule; c) the impending Republican invasion, during which the girl is getting the hell out of Dodge; d) girl’s trip to the wedding in Wisconsin; e) boy’s business school alumni event on the one night she has free this week and work-related dinner on the one night she’ll be in town between the wedding and the aforementioned escape; f) boy’s current affliction with poison ivy, which he contracted during last weekend’s out of town jaunt; g) all of the above.
Boy and girl plan to go out for a drink in early 2005.
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Good luck and I hope it all goes well 😉
Good luck and I hope it all goes well 😉
yes, i’ve been through this a million times. think of it this way: if you two both really like each other, you’ll make the effort to find time to meet up.
cuz if he doesn’t make the effort, then maybe he’s “just not that into you”.
p.s.: found out about that book from Rachel.
yes, i’ve been through this a million times. think of it this way: if you two both really like each other, you’ll make the effort to find time to meet up.
cuz if he doesn’t make the effort, then maybe he’s “just not that into you”.
p.s.: found out about that book from Rachel.
Yikes!! – you’re just too busy with your social life to have a social life! Catch 22.
Yikes!! – you’re just too busy with your social life to have a social life! Catch 22.
At least he likes you back – 90% of the time lately, that is my stumbling block. Seriously. Or, um, coughmarriedcough, but that’s another story. I think as frustrating as it can be, I’d rather have someone like me back and be busy than not like me back and, oh, run into them all the time! But that’s just my drama. 🙂
The most important part of this post for me though was, which member of Popstarkids is your neighbor? I know Andee cause my friend Cinnamon used to go out with him and I see Popstarkids flyers everywhere.
At least he likes you back – 90% of the time lately, that is my stumbling block. Seriously. Or, um, coughmarriedcough, but that’s another story. I think as frustrating as it can be, I’d rather have someone like me back and be busy than not like me back and, oh, run into them all the time! But that’s just my drama. 🙂
The most important part of this post for me though was, which member of Popstarkids is your neighbor? I know Andee cause my friend Cinnamon used to go out with him and I see Popstarkids flyers everywhere.
That would be Glenn (or G$). He lives on my floor and is the best neighbor ever.
Stay away from the coughmarriedcough ones.
That would be Glenn (or G$). He lives on my floor and is the best neighbor ever.
Stay away from the coughmarriedcough ones.
i’m currently dealing with this myself; i think it’s a city thing, but i’m sure it’s more intense in new york.
i’m currently dealing with this myself; i think it’s a city thing, but i’m sure it’s more intense in new york.