I had an interesting conversation with a guy friend last night about how he's been thinking lately about settling down. One interesting point he raised was that he's thinking about moving to San Francisco, because NYC isn't conducive to settling down. I've pondered this very issue myself. I think this is why I'm leaning towards moving to Brooklyn (at some point) and getting a dog — to force a little settling down on my end — but I agree with him that it's pretty damn hard to settle down here. What do you think?
Settling Down
I had an interesting conversation with a guy friend last night about how he's been thinking lately about settling down. One interesting point he raised was that he's thinking about…
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To settle down- to be content with a life of routine – kids, a dog, house payments and noisy neighbors seems odd to me. To give into a life less ordinary means giving up on late night parties, press access and dinner at 2AM with your core friends. All of that reeks of doom.
But on the other side, there is the eternal bliss of knowing that you have a partner who will be there. Your life together based on fixed points in time – mortgage, soccer practice and anniversaries.
could be wonderful.
On some subjects there are three sides to the story. And on that note I refer you to the dark side of this subject…
Did the person making the argument for ‘settling down’ truly mean it or was it something he thinks women want to hear?
Personally, I’m all for marriage and not settling- Marry the right person and you’ll never settle.
That’s my opinion- long winded, yes. Truthful to who I am..HELL YES!
To settle down- to be content with a life of routine – kids, a dog, house payments and noisy neighbors seems odd to me. To give into a life less ordinary means giving up on late night parties, press access and dinner at 2AM with your core friends. All of that reeks of doom.
But on the other side, there is the eternal bliss of knowing that you have a partner who will be there. Your life together based on fixed points in time – mortgage, soccer practice and anniversaries.
could be wonderful.
On some subjects there are three sides to the story. And on that note I refer you to the dark side of this subject…
Did the person making the argument for ‘settling down’ truly mean it or was it something he thinks women want to hear?
Personally, I’m all for marriage and not settling- Marry the right person and you’ll never settle.
That’s my opinion- long winded, yes. Truthful to who I am..HELL YES!
Amen Lincoln, you speak the truth.
Amen Lincoln, you speak the truth.
“To settle down- to be content with a life of routine – kids, a dog, house payments and noisy neighbors seems odd…”
Makes me think of Pelham Manor ala 1980.
I have been pondering on this question that you have thrown out quite a bit myself. I left NY for 6 years, only to come back for another 10, then I left again. I think NY is a place to settle down, I know a few folks who have (albeit they have cash) and like the life there. But being a born and raised (Ok well born on 77th and Lex) New Yorker with different tastes, well NYC has changed (it always does) to the point where I cannot mentally connect with it anymore…at least not in the same way I did. Shocking to admit, but true.
The wander continues..( with a dog though…best investment ever!)
“To settle down- to be content with a life of routine – kids, a dog, house payments and noisy neighbors seems odd…”
Makes me think of Pelham Manor ala 1980.
I have been pondering on this question that you have thrown out quite a bit myself. I left NY for 6 years, only to come back for another 10, then I left again. I think NY is a place to settle down, I know a few folks who have (albeit they have cash) and like the life there. But being a born and raised (Ok well born on 77th and Lex) New Yorker with different tastes, well NYC has changed (it always does) to the point where I cannot mentally connect with it anymore…at least not in the same way I did. Shocking to admit, but true.
The wander continues..( with a dog though…best investment ever!)