It has been a long while since I’ve been in a mutual, committed, exclusive, serious, long-term relationship. During the course of my single-dom, I have engaged in various and sundry permutations of “dating,” from brief encounters, to longer-term situations, from “this has no future, but it’s okay for now” to “I could imagine the possibility of a future here.” I’ve gone from strategic and purposeful alone time to strategic, purposeful, and plentiful dating.
As of this moment, I’m currently open to meeting someone, but am not going out of my way to be proactive about dating. No more internet dating, no participating in dating columns. I did promise one friend that I’d be her wingwoman at a Jewish singles event if necessary — what are friends for? But generally, it’s summer, and I’d rather spend my free time with my friends and family (whom I don’t get to see enough as it is) going to free, outdoor events and enjoying everything NYC summer has to offer. This weekend it was an active weekend, complete with a long, leisurely rollerblade down the West side with my friend Eric, and a 60 mile bike ride to Oyster Bay with the girls.
Even though I’m not really looking, I have an odd feeling that, soon enough, I’ll end up dating someone with a blog. This could be good or bad. Who knows? We’ll see what the future brings. . .
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22 responses to “Laissez-Faire Dating”
I got a crush on a blogger…and the only hint I will give you is that you have a link to their blog on your site and so do I. (swoon!)
I got a crush on a blogger…and the only hint I will give you is that you have a link to their blog on your site and so do I. (swoon!)
Crushes on bloggers, pff.
(Hypocrisy: I have crushes on two bloggers, and I express the crushes on my site using XFN.)
Crushes on bloggers, pff.
(Hypocrisy: I have crushes on two bloggers, and I express the crushes on my site using XFN.)
N — I think I might know who you mean 🙂
Richard — how does that work? Are you the only one who can see the tags?
N — I think I might know who you mean 🙂
Richard — how does that work? Are you the only one who can see the tags?
Nope, if you view source, you can see the relationships I have set for people. Also, you can go to a site like Rubhub.com, type in a URL, and have it show the relationships (to and from) a site. XFN is in the early stages, but it’s a way to describe in existing HTML how you are related to someone, and not just by family ties.
Nope, if you view source, you can see the relationships I have set for people. Also, you can go to a site like Rubhub.com, type in a URL, and have it show the relationships (to and from) a site. XFN is in the early stages, but it’s a way to describe in existing HTML how you are related to someone, and not just by family ties.
Here’s a scary site (from lindsayism.com) of a girl who is has no boyfriend and is counting down to her December 2004 engagement…
http://www.marryblaire.com/
Here’s a scary site (from lindsayism.com) of a girl who is has no boyfriend and is counting down to her December 2004 engagement…
http://www.marryblaire.com/
Wow. That is one of the most terrifying things I have ever seen.
Wow. That is one of the most terrifying things I have ever seen.
Not as terrifying as the amount of women (and, I’m sure, a few men) with ‘boyfriend application’ pages.
Not as terrifying as the amount of women (and, I’m sure, a few men) with ‘boyfriend application’ pages.
Quite a ride!
Quite a ride!
That is some site that lady has got, good luck to her!
Are you tempted to follow suit Laren? lol
That is some site that lady has got, good luck to her!
Are you tempted to follow suit Laren? lol
No way in hell.
No way in hell.
hee hee
it is a bit on the extreme side!
hee hee
it is a bit on the extreme side!